On a good note my dad apologized for saying that I'm planning my wedding with my FIL'S because he knows I'm not... bad note... he had a mental breakdown and didn't know why so my mom didn't come with me to the bridal show... but we're going to find one closer that she can come with me to!!!

The bridal show was still LOADS of fun!!!

Today Dad and I are going to check out some restaurants or caterers and see if we can get a small list together for FH and I to choose!

ARGH... so my dad is fricken at it AGAIN!!! My mom and I planned on going to a bridal show today... and told him about it last week!!! And now today he is sitting in his fricken room MOPPING!!! Last time I let him get away with it... I'm not this time... if he screws this up again... He's gonna know that I'll be PISSED!!!

It's not the fact that I'll miss the bridal show... I'll live... Brides got married just fine in the past without bridal shows... so that ain't the issue... the issue is I ask for 1 fricken day with my mom... JUST ONE!!! And he throws a fit!!!!

I'm tired of it!!! My FH is afraid that I won't be able to seperate from my dad... and that all our life if he throws a fit I'll run to my dad... well I'm going to stop that trend NOW... because it's fricken pissing me off...

I'm tired of everytime I want things to go my way and throw a hissy fit about it I'm told that I am being insanely selfish... what the frick is HE doing then!!!

Sorry I just needed to vent...

Honestly, your dad is controlling and manipulative.  You may not see it because it's all you've known, but obviously your FH sees it because he gets mad/irritated by it. 

Notice the cycle... blow out, appologize, honeymoon, blow out.. etc...

You may not ever separate from him because you're in his emotionally abusive pattern.

I do and don't agree... The only reason I do it NOW is because I live with my dad... aka I come home to hear him whine about this or that... When married... i'm going to live 2 hours away...

I do agree however to what you had said about my dad... and I'm going to take measures to get out of this pattern... I do not wish it upon my married life... so it must stop now.