Sex and marriage are both highly subjective things. It's like saying "no peanut butter before yogurt" Some people don't EAT peanut butter. Some people HAVE to eat yogurt first. The best part about allowing extremely randy people to have safe sex before marriage means they'll be more selective or not marry at all. If they never do, then maybe they shouldn't have anyway. win-win.

sex is as sacred as marriage

cause.... sex is part of love...

its better to take a test drive before you buy a vehicle.. Lolzzz..

no i disagree

Couple should have sex before marriage to know there sex compatibility. Marriage with a boring sex could lead to split up!

Develop true love and understanding - independent of virginity (Even I can't do that! It's easier said than done) - when you do find out that they have saved themselves for you, you're a lot happier & it'd be less of a expectation but more of appreciation. I don't promote living together before marriage, but if you have commitments such as studies and you're unoffically engaged anyway, go ahead!

You have to have respect in yourself first - not arrogance. It's no good in thinking that your virginity is so high up there that you tolerate no honest mistakes from the other party e.g. what if he doesn't buy you roses... does he still appreciate your virginity?! You've to be less shallow than that. Find someone who truly loves you and wants to spend the rest of his/her life with you. (cont)

I would be happy that my wife isn't a virgin. It would make me happy to know that she enjoyed her previous life and was able to find things which brought her joy and pleasure. I understand that you are orang indonesia, and that you have your own religious beliefs, but living a life with no sex, ADUH....ITU TIDAK PINTAR! SEX-BAGUSNYA!

If so, especially the woman, won't be happy!