The premise of this book is simply "trust God". If you want a good marriage, God is more competent than you to bring that about. If you simply trust him, by patiently submitting to his will, and doing what is right even when it doesn't feel good, your outcome will be good. It may not be what you thought it would be, but it will be good. On the other hand, if you take matters into your own hands, distrust God, and do things your way, you'll inevitably mess up.

The book deals more ... (show more)

The premise of this book is simply "trust God". If you want a good marriage, God is more competent than you to bring that about. If you simply trust him, by patiently submitting to his will, and doing what is right even when it doesn't feel good, your outcome will be good. It may not be what you thought it would be, but it will be good. On the other hand, if you take matters into your own hands, distrust God, and do things your way, you'll inevitably mess up.

The book deals more with the matters of your heart and attitude than specific practical advice on how to properly conduct a relationship. In that regard it's more of a starting point than a complete guide. It lays a good foundation that you can build on with other godly books and resources (May I suggest Paul Washers two sermons on courtship that I listened to for the second time earlier today)

If I may offer some criticism, I would wish the book had more Bible verses. That would help in solidifying the foundation that this book builds. Also, many of the Bible quotes in the book are paraphrases. While this may be good to get a point across, paraphrasing the Bible is inherently dangerous, and should only be done with extreme caution. That being said, I still give it five stars. And I would recommend it especially to anyone who wants to honor God in their romantic pursuits, but are struggling to keep themselves motivated to keep doing so. (show less)

The book overall is decent. It has a lot of good points and really makes one evaluate their stance on relationships. It makes you take a look at the relationship you're currently in, if applicable, and makes you take a look within yourself at the type of person you are, aka kind of seeing yourself as the other person sees you. I feel the book was very particular on telling girls to keep their virginity for marriage but merely touched on the subject with guys.lso, the book seems to be written ... (show more)

The book overall is decent. It has a lot of good points and really makes one evaluate their stance on relationships. It makes you take a look at the relationship you're currently in, if applicable, and makes you take a look within yourself at the type of person you are, aka kind of seeing yourself as the other person sees you. I feel the book was very particular on telling girls to keep their virginity for marriage but merely touched on the subject with guys.lso, the book seems to be written for older teenagers or adults in their 20's, maybe early 30's; unfortunately, I feel like it speaks to me like I'm in middle school sometimes. If you're going to aim a book at my age group, speak to me at my level of intelligence. And another thing, at one point in the book it speaks about noble knights and fair maidens. Hello, why don't you just say kings and pheasant girls? They could have at least put us on even turfs with like princes and princesses. (show less)

This is a fantastic read, great outlines and barriers before marriage and for those few of us who are quite content to remain single in our lives.

I especially liked how Eric mentioned around pages 40-42 about a man who suffered for his love for Christ. When I read the words that Eric spoke about this man from Romania in the former Soviet Union I realized he was talking of Richard Wurmbrand and his love for our Lord Jesus.
To fully understand this man's love for Jesus and what Eric was ta... (show more)

This is a fantastic read, great outlines and barriers before marriage and for those few of us who are quite content to remain single in our lives.

I especially liked how Eric mentioned around pages 40-42 about a man who suffered for his love for Christ. When I read the words that Eric spoke about this man from Romania in the former Soviet Union I realized he was talking of Richard Wurmbrand and his love for our Lord Jesus.
To fully understand this man's love for Jesus and what Eric was talking about, I recommend reading Richard Wurmbrand's story in the book 'Tortured for Christ' which I'm reading at the moment. You can also read some of his story along with other stories in 'Trial and Triumph: Stories from Church History.' Reading his story brought tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat so I was able to relate to Eric when he saw that video that his brother had shown him.

The Book 'When God Writes Your Love Story' is worth the read which I would recommend for; well anyone really!

It is extremely important to remain pure, if it be we are waiting for the one God may have for us if it is God's will we get married in our life, then we should actively love our future spouse enough to wait for them. If it be we remain single the rest of our lives, we should still keep our bodies pure for God.

I've been enjoying reading this excellent book! (show less)

This book had a few high points regarding how to prepare for and participate in a Godly relationship. The points Eric and Leslie Ludy made about loving God first and keeping yourself, mind and body, pure, and surrender were correct, but I feel they could have exressed them in a better way. Their chapters on purity came across as judgemental and without any redeeming grace. While I admire their love story and how beautifully they say it came together, I think they assume that their readers are... (show more)

This book had a few high points regarding how to prepare for and participate in a Godly relationship. The points Eric and Leslie Ludy made about loving God first and keeping yourself, mind and body, pure, and surrender were correct, but I feel they could have exressed them in a better way. Their chapters on purity came across as judgemental and without any redeeming grace. While I admire their love story and how beautifully they say it came together, I think they assume that their readers are coming from the same background. The whole "parent involvement thing" is a very old-fashioned, 1950's, Baptist idea, where the guy is supposed to ask for the father's blessing.
I found some of their examples to be a bit cheesy. I also have an issue with books that use paraphrases of scripture instead of the real verse from a valid translation. There is no need to water down the message with contemporary language; it speaks for itself.
If you want to read a wonderful set of books about how to pursue a Godly relationship, read "Captivating" by John & Stasi Eldredge and "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge. (show less)

Recently, I realized the need to be able to reccommend a book to students struggling with the issue of relationships. I had heard good things about this book, so this is where I started. After reading it, I’m not sure I would have to read much else. That isn’t to say that there aren’t any other valuable books on the subject, but the book the Ludy’s write thoughtfully deals with all of the issues students struggle.

The main point of the book is to trust God with your love life. Every be... (show more)

Recently, I realized the need to be able to reccommend a book to students struggling with the issue of relationships. I had heard good things about this book, so this is where I started. After reading it, I’m not sure I would have to read much else. That isn’t to say that there aren’t any other valuable books on the subject, but the book the Ludy’s write thoughtfully deals with all of the issues students struggle.

The main point of the book is to trust God with your love life. Every believer needs to come to a point where they will not make rash decisions and relationship choices they know don’t please God. Instead, they need to trust that God, the all-knowing, grace giving Savior, to do what is best in the life of a believer. That can be scary and difficult, but we need to understand that God has a better idea of what is best for us. We must surrender this portion of our hearts and minds to God.

Another section of the book that I admired was the stressing that we must preserve ourselves, not just physically, but also emotionally and spiritually, for our future spouses. There is much emphasis on saving yourself for marriage, and that is appropriate, but there is hardly any emphasis on protecting themselves from giving themselves emotionally to their boyfriend or girlfriend. That can just as damaging. And we can’t make the mistake the Pharisees did in thinking it was just the act, not the heart or thought, that condemned a person.

This book not only speaks to how to properly pursue a relationship, but gives adivce to those dealing with singleness. They stress the importance of that time in their lives, and how beneficial it can really be. They not only speak to this, but also provide applicable steps a person can take to know whether the one they are with is the one that God has brought around for them.

I would say this is a must read for all teenagers, and we are going to be starting a relationship series in our high school group. I have noticed recently that more and more of our teenagers are making comprimises in this area of their life. And if there is a dangerous area of your life to comprimise in, this is it. Sin in this area can lead to widespread destruction, and often times leaves a wake of consequences and painful scars in its path. (show less)

This is not simply a baseless exhortation for abstinence, but a refreshingly "real" plea to single people to change the way they look at dating. The attitude the authors wish to steer the reader toward is one that focuses on honoring your future spouse, and being faithful even before you meet them; this means, in part, that we realize that dating is not just a recreational activity, and therefore stop approaching it that way. Although the book comes off as cheesy quite a bit, the ... (show more)

This is not simply a baseless exhortation for abstinence, but a refreshingly "real" plea to single people to change the way they look at dating. The attitude the authors wish to steer the reader toward is one that focuses on honoring your future spouse, and being faithful even before you meet them; this means, in part, that we realize that dating is not just a recreational activity, and therefore stop approaching it that way. Although the book comes off as cheesy quite a bit, the husband-and-wife authors Eric and Leslie Ludy make very good points for the most part, centering around the idea of having faith that God can and will take care of our "love story," if only we surrender the proverbial pen to Him and allow Him to write that story. At times, the flow seems somewhat belabored with an overabundance of personal anecdotes, but it's well worth soldiering through to get to the real meat of what the authors are saying. If we really believe that God is all-powerful, and that He loves us and provides everything we need, then why should we feel any differently about our love lives? Eric says in conclusion, "Our Lord had never been anything but faithful to us, and I knew He wouldn't stop now." The idea of surrendering to God is not just helpful in relationships, but in every area of life. (show less)