I hear you Mindee, my teenage boy has made some choices that have blown me away. I hope things turn up. I sometimes wonder how any of us survive teenagers. Having so much love for them and not being able to be that strong influence we were when they were 5 is heart wrenching in so many ways.

being positive is not the problem and praising them is not the problem, when they are in denial about there choices and what they do and they are as mad as hell about a divorce and never get over it and act out is the problem