In connection with something somebody said, I was searching the internet for a simple, accessible, focused definition of  sex positive  which I could link to directly.   I found many examples of the term in use, many complex, relatively unfocused...

  Whenever I’m feeling uncomfortable about people and their behaviour in a BDSM, polyamorous, or any other socially diverse context  (which unfortunately is pretty often),  I prefer to make a distinction between discomfort which relates to my own...

  I note with some amazement that apparently I have never written in this blog about my punishment policy.   This policy is at the forefront of my mind lots and lots, so I’m genuinely surprised to notice that of all the posts I’ve written, that...

  Despite previous evidence to the contrary, you’ll be glad to hear that I do occasionally enjoy friendly, respectful, and just plain  nice  correspondence with other members of my local BDSM community.   Recently I received such an email relating to...

  Sometimes I use the term  “vanilla“.   I thought that providing a definition would be a good idea, just so you’re all clear on how I’m using it.   va•nil•la | vəˈnɪlə | adjective, noun (pl. -s)   A descriptive term referring to what...